Why is it not acceptable?
I honestly don’t care what people have to say about me living with my mom and brother. These 2 people have always been there for me, and unless you’re willing to pay my bills, there’s nothing more to be said.
The end of 2011, beginning of 2012 I became divorced and was losing everything, including my home. My mom and brother moved out not wanting to be in the middle of my messy divorce. It’s a very long story as to why I didn’t get anything from the divorce except my personal belongings like clothes and make-up, but we won’t get into that right now. Just know that the divorce literally took everything I had, including my job. I was left with only heartache. The only place to go was to my mother’s where she and my brother had rented an apartment, and though it only has 2 bedrooms, we made it work, and we still continue to make it work.
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
After I graduated high school, my mother moved out of the apartment she rented leaving me to pay the rent and moved almost 2 hours away from our hometown. I didn’t see her except for Christmas for several years after that. I had 2 friends move in to help cover costs, so it wasn’t too much of a burden on me. Unfortunately, one roommate was always late with her share.
My viewpoint is I’d have to have a roommate if I moved out on my own anyways. Rent in my state is rather high and my income would barely cover a months rent and utilities on top of my already standing bills. There’s just no way I could afford to live alone, and why would I roll the dice hoping for a decent roommate when I already know my mother’s habits (as well as my brother’s) and I know I can rely on them. Why would I put myself in the position of someone not paying their portion leaving me stuck to foot their bill, too? Or eating my food? Or using my stuff?
Me and my mother - cheers!
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Fast forward to me, my husband (now ex) and son moving to Florida in 2001, where I asked my mom to move with us. It took her a few months to wrap up her life in California, but she arrived 3 months after we did, bringing my adult brother with her. We all lived together in a big house and things were great.
